Loving someone else

To be in love with another's lover. Be it a love triangle or otherwise, it would only lead to problems. It has been the subject of many a story, from "Kuch Kuch Hota Hai"(that's a Hindustan movie by the way) to "Friends" the comical television series.

To fall for a person who has pledged his/her love to another. Such an occurance is as natural as night and day. It can happen to anyone. Even you.

Why does it happen? Why would we want someone who is already attached to another? Will we ever be able to find for ourselves satisfaction from someone else when we know our heart belongs to another? Will we ever find peace?

It is very difficult to make a decision knowing one way or another someone will be hurt. So should we approach and attempt to break the couple apart or do the selfless deed of leaving them to live a healthy life together?

When such a question pops up, it is then that you know that the time has come for you to do some soul-searching.

Ask yoursef, do you really care for him/her? Or is it just a passing crush? Perhaps it will die down with time; like it always does. Is it just lust and wanting that's making you "love" him/her? And does he/she need you the way you need him/her? And finally, think about the future. Would his/her future be better with our without you?

Sometimes in loving someone, you have to learn to let go. You can't hold on to a bird that wishes to be free. It'll only die in your hands if you do so. If in setting it free, you find the bird returning to you, then perhaps, you've won over its heart. Then again, why would a bird leave one coop to enter another?

Always the first step to loving someone is to choose to do so. So why choose a bird in a cage when there's so many others flying free?